How many times have you heard someone thank you for doing something nice for them but then in the next moment their actions show the complete opposite to their words? They disrespect the exact thing they’ve thanked you for.
For instance my Son may thank me for tidying his bedroom, right before he disappears upstairs and leaves all his dirty clothes lying on the floor. His words may say thank you but the actions says, he doesn’t really care.
There is a saying that we all know: ‘Actions speak louder than words’. This is so true as words are an easy offering but actions take a bit more effort.
These small and seemingly insignificant occurrences may create arguments and tension in the home, but the real issue is never the fact clothes have been left on the floor, and always to do with a lack of respect for the home keeper.
Most of these minor actions are done unknowingly and unintentionally so we try to teach our son, while making him pick up his clothes, to be aware of how his actions can affect others.
There were many times, when I was running the charity Embrace, where I would knowingly and even willingly be taken advantage of. Many girls on the outreach would just want to take from me whatever I was offering, whether it be food and beverages or hygiene bags.
Many would just take them, say thank you, and then run off and not look back. Whereas others would stop and thank us and engage in a meaningful conversation. Both girls said the same words, but which ones actually meant it?
Being thankful is a verb – ‘it’s a doing word’ it requires actions over words.
It requires us to pick our dirty clothes up off the floor or give back in some way to those that have given to us. Words of thank you are weak it’s our actions that prove our words.
That being said, many people asked me. Why do you keep feeding the girls if all they ever do is take advantage of you? My response was always because I love them.
They just need someone who is not turned off by their lack of respect but continues to love them through their rejection.
It is at this stage that breakthrough happens.
When they’ve done everything to push you away and show they’re not interested; but yet you still keep coming back, you continue to show up. It’s only then do they notice that there is something different about you and they begin to open up so that transformation can take place.’
So we can all ask ourselves the question why? Why do we keep doing stuff for people even if they don’t reciprocate? even if their Thank you is not given as a verb. Why? because we love them.
Love can break through anything if we just keep showing up!
‘Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.’